How Therapists Help Clients with Emotional Co-Regulation in Marriage

Your clients aren't just bad at communicating. They're running emotional patterns that were hardwired in childhood — and those patterns show up loudest in marriage.In this episode, Monica sits down with Ruth Comer, licensed marriage and family therapist trained in Life Model, EFT, and EMDR, to unpack how emotional co-regulation actually works in couples therapy. They cover what co-regulation looks like in practice, how attachment styles shape the way partners support each other under stress, and why you might be doing all the right things for all the wrong reasons — and not even know it.They also explore how the Life Model works as an umbrella framework alongside EFT and EMDR, and why increasing joy capacity might be the most practical thing you can do for couples stuck in negative cycles.If you've ever gotten to the end of a long clinical day and just wanted to disappear, this one is for you.