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This episode of Dem Bois Podcast is a continuation of my reflection on extracting closure, and this one focuses on my mother. I talk about my mother and our relationship often, but today I’m taking it a step further by reading a letter that I wrote to her, one that really helped me heal. I also discuss the process of writing this letter, the impact of my past traumas, and the importance of telling my story.
I talk:
03:37 - Exploring past relationships and closure
12:45 - Personal stories of trauma and healing
21:55 - Writing for healing and control of narrative
27:28 - The power of healing and community
35:20 - Dear Mama: A Journey of Healing
43:10 - Transforming pain into purpose
Episode References:
Ep. 123 - Fulfillment Through Authenticity and Art as Self-Discovery with Wen Neale
Ep. 122 - The Weight of Trauma: Unpacking Adoption, Love, and Identity with Felix-Long Laneri
Ep. 119 - Breaking Cycles of Trauma through Art and Love with Sunny
Ep. 106 - Extracting Closure From a Past Situation with Shawn Aaron
Ep. 103 - Building Brotherhood Using Unconditional Love with Kalvin Byrd
Ep 48 - Repairing the Relationship with My Birth Mother and the Death of My Chosen Mother
Ep. 12 - Healing Generational Trauma Through Transformative Parenting
Ep. 3 - Surviving Homelessness
30 Days of Black Trans Reflection: Abolition, Anti-capitalism, and Black Queer Feminism
Dear Mama, | Day 27 of 30
Read more about Shawn in his bio below:
Shawn Aaron (he/him) is a Black queer trans man, nonprofit leader, and host of Dem Bois Podcast. He is the Founder + Executive Director of Dem Bois Inc., an organization dedicated to affirming and supporting trans men of color through access to gender-affirming care, health equity, and visibility. Drawing from his lived experience with homelessness, Shawn’s mission is rooted in community care and systemic change. Whether through storytelling or advocacy, his work amplifies the voices of those too often unheard. His signature belief: Visibility = Possibility™
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