What if the stress, anxiety, and exhaustion you’re feeling aren’t coming from helping others—but from carrying responsibilities that were never yours to carry?
If you’ve spent years being the reliable one and feel depleted, you’re not alone.
In this episode, you’ll discover:
- Why the urge to rescue often comes from your own discomfort—and how recognizing that can reduce stress and anxiety.
- A simple mantra, Don’t Just Do Something, Stand There, that can help you pause before automatically stepping in and taking over.
- How the Notice, Name, Tame, Aim process can help you tolerate discomfort, stay supportive, and stop carrying what isn’t yours to carry.
Take 12 minutes to learn how helping differently can reduce stress, ease anxiety, and leave you with more energy for what matters most—you’re worth it.
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About the Host:
MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.
Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support.
