Ep 176 Angela Falcini - Air Force to Internal Coach / Coaching DNA / "Love Actually"

Question-by-Question Highlights

1) Best coaching advice you’ve gotten

• Don’t be attached to the client’s outcome
• Presence improves when control is removed
• Client commitment matters more than coach frustration
• Missed actions are data, not failure

2) What are you still trying to improve about your coaching?

• Leaning more into somatic awareness
• Asking “where do you feel that?” more often
• Trusting body signals as much as intellect
• Slowing down instead of goal-chasing

3) Most outrageous thing you’ve done, tried, or said in a session

• Told clients they weren’t ready for coaching
• Paused engagements instead of pushing through
• Redirected clients to books instead of sessions
• Prioritized service over revenue (wild, I know)

4) What still makes you squirm or uncomfortable?

• Ignoring internal discomfort
• Not asking the question her gut is screaming
• Leaving insight “on the table”
• Playing it safe instead of pushing edges

5) Advice for someone new to coaching

• Learn multiple coaching models
• Don’t copy other coaches, synthesize them
• Stay a student of coaching forever
• Let formulas guide early, not define forever

6) What have you had to conquer to become a great coach?

• Attachment to doing it “right”
• Fear of losing clients by being honest
• The urge to rescue instead of reflect
• Trusting that readiness can’t be forced

7) How are you using AI in your coaching practice?

• AI note-taking with client opt-in
• Using transcripts to deepen recall
• Exploring tools and exercises with curiosity
• Letting tech support presence, not replace it

8) What have you learned about yourself through coaching?

• Imposter syndrome is universal
• One-on-one depth beats loud rooms
• Curiosity is her superpower
• Being heard changes everything

Fun Stuff Question

• Favorite movies: The Princess Bride (classic), Love Actually (Hugh Grant wins)
• Celebrity look-alikes: Laura Linney, Kirsten Bell (15 pounds ago, allegedly)
• Strong opinions on names, silence, and Italian pronunciation