At 17 years old, she believed that if a boyfriend didn't hit her, he was a good boyfriend.
Growing up in a small town, raised in a strict religious household, and surrounded by unhealthy relationships, she had no idea what a healthy partnership was supposed to look like. What started as a high school relationship eventually led to years of heartbreak, single motherhood, difficult co-parenting battles, and the painful realization that the father of her child was never going to become the parent her daughter deserved.
But nothing could have prepared her for the message she received in 2025…a message that revealed her ex had been arrested and charged with multiple felony offenses involving a minor.
Topics Discussed:
→ How do you protect your child from an unsafe parent?
→ When should co-parenting stop?
→ What are signs of parental neglect?
→ How do you win sole custody?
→ How do you heal after betrayal?
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On This Episode We Cover:
→ 00:00:00 - What was it like growing up in a strict Jehovah's Witness household?
→ 00:02:34 - How did childhood trauma shape her relationships?
→ 00:04:04 - What happened during her high-risk pregnancy?
→ 00:09:02 - What made co-parenting so difficult from the beginning?
→ 00:12:58 - Who did she move in with after leaving her ex?
→ 00:14:44 - When did neglect become impossible to ignore?
→ 00:17:31 - Why did she pursue sole legal and physical custody?
→ 00:20:14 - How did his parenting get worse over time?
→ 00:25:42 - How did her current partner become the father figure her daughter needed?
→ 00:31:02 - What message changed her life forever?
→ 00:33:45 - How did she react after learning about her ex's arrest?
→ 00:37:50 - Did she try to speak to him or his family after the news broke?
→ 00:42:55 - When was the last time she spoke to her ex?
→ 00:44:39 - How is her daughter handling the news about her father?
→ 00:46:09 - How will she one day explain the truth to her daughter?
→ 00:48:26 - How is she staying mindful of her mental health?
→ 00:50:54 - Why did she start sharing her story on TikTok?
→ 00:53:33 - How did going viral help her custody case?
→ 00:55:09 - Did the positive tik tok comments help her heal?
→ 00:57:06 - How was she able to afford a lawyer?
→ 00:59:04 - Does she see herself continuing to share her journey?
→ 01:02:21 - Why does she believe more parents need to share stories like this?
→ 01:08:05 - What is she going to do next?
→ 01:09:30 - Why is it scary for people to share their story?
→ 01:12:15 - When did people start to listen to her story?
→ 01:15:31 - How did her relationship with her father impact her parenting decisions?
→ 01:17:36 - What did she do when she first found out?
→ 01:20:02 - What is it like to struggle with your mental health?
→ 01:21:53 - What was it like hearing his sentencing in court?
→ 01:25:48 - What did she learn about relationships and abuse?
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