Dr Glenn and Phyllis Hill are recording from a new house, surrounded by half-unpacked boxes, and the conversation turns to something some of us haven't fully unpacked either: grief.
Phyllis opens up about the thirteen years since her mom died and the fact that she doesn't remember crying, or anyone asking her what was happening for her.
Dr Glenn names the thing most of us do instead: spiritual bypass, where we throw a scripture or a prayer over someone's pain so the conversation can end and nobody has to feel it. It's rarely malicious. It's almost always well-intentioned. And it shuts people down anyway.
This episode is about what it costs us, and what Jesus did instead when he stood outside Lazarus's tomb, already knowing how the story ended.
In this episode:
•Why mirror neurons make us rush to fix other people's pain and why it's not a faith thing; it's a human thing
•Spiritual bypass: what it is, why it sounds so right, and how it ends the conversation
•Phyllis on losing her mom at 90 and still not being ready and the questions nobody asked her
•Jesus with Mary and Martha: he had the miracle in hand and still chose to weep first
•"You can be totally correct and absolutely wrong at the same time"
•Why no emotion is negative
•What we teach kids when we say "you're fine" and why the 15-year-old won't open up now
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