Rick Cheatham returns to The Relentless Pursuit Podcast, andthis one is not about his journey. It is about what was underneath it.
Over 40 years ago, Rick prayed for a wife. He described her down to the height and the hair, then felt guilty about how shallow the prayer had gotten and added one more line: help me become the man of God you want me to be.
Two weeks later, Kelly walked into his church.
Ten years later she told him she hated him, she hated the church, and because of him, she hated God.
This episode is about what a man does after that sentence.
Rick opens up about pornography, strip clubs, prostitution, and adultery, and then makes the case that none of it was ever actually the problem. He walks through the core belief he carried out of childhood, that he was not enough and never would be, and how that one identity produced every behavior that followed. He shares the moment he told Kelly the entiretruth while she was pregnant, what happened the next day, and the words from his mentor that saved his family.
He also talks about the man who murdered his son, the ten years of hatred he carried, and the sentence that finally broke it.
Rick walks Joe through START WHERE YOU STAND, thetransformation framework he built out of the mass casualty triage system he learned in the fire service.
Size up yourself. Triage your thinking. Act in faith instead of fear. Regulate your emotion. Thrive.
Rick and his wife Kelly are turning their property into a recovery residence for men working through intimacy disorders, so those men can reintegrate with their families with proof that it can work.
The addiction is a symptom. Identity is the issue. Transformation is the story.
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MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE
How to Understand the Mind of a Woman by Kenneth Nair
00:00 The Prayer and Regret
01:03 Affirmations and Creed Cards
05:11 Podcast Intro and Identity Focus
06:54 Rick’s Mission Today
12:35 Ministry With Kelly
19:47 Victimhood and Forgiveness
26:55 Start Where You Stand
30:07 Size Up and Childhood Programming
35:48 Triage Thinking and Faith Action
46:45 Regulate Emotion and Thrive
56:00 Change Your Story
57:12 Faith Over Fear
59:13 Heaven On Earth
01:01:53 Purpose Ignites Power
01:03:18 Relationships As Mirrors
01:09:38 Identity Drives Addiction
01:14:26 Sponsor Break
01:15:42 Porn And Secrecy
01:20:30 Rock Bottom Moment
01:24:08 Mentor And Rebuild
01:29:14 Radical Transparency
01:42:33 Advice And Hope
01:50:12 Forgiveness And Grace
01:52:21 Where To Find Rick
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