Are You at War with Arousal? Lust vs. Embracing Beauty with Sam Jolman

What does it mean to be a biblically sexual man? Can masculine men also be deeply romantic? And how can we stop lusting and learn to embrace true beauty in other people?

What if we processed beauty differently? What if beauty helped reveal our deeper needs, emotions, and inner longings rather than leading us into lust?

 In today’s conversation with trauma therapist and author Sam Jolman, we unpack the difference between what happens in our physical bodies—arousal—and what happens in our hearts when we notice or feel attracted to another person.

We also discuss what we can do when we notice our spouse looking at someone attractive, how couples can respond without immediately moving into fear, shame, or accusation, and how we can steward our hearts in ways that honor God, ourselves, and our spouse.

This conversation touches on several topics that are crucial for us during our own healing journey. We hope you enjoy this convo as much as we did and be sure to check out Sam Jolman’s book below.

Resources: 

Sam's Book

Sam's Website

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Thanks for listening! We hope this episode brings perspective, and hope right where you are!

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