If you've ever blamed your hormones, metabolism, genetics, circumstances—or yourself—for your weight, this episode is for you.
I'm going to say something that might sting:
You are, in large part, responsible for how much you weigh.
But before you turn that into another reason to beat yourself up, stay with me.
Responsibility is not the same thing as blame.
In this episode, we're talking about radical responsibility—taking 100% ownership of your part, nothing more and nothing less. You don't take responsibility for things that were never yours, but you also don't hand your power away to things outside of your control.
We'll talk about:
- The difference between owning your part and blaming yourself
- Why responsibility can become another weapon when you already have a harsh inner voice
- How to tell the difference between accountability and shame
- Why you can't "negative yourself into something positive"
- Kristin Neff's research on self-compassion and motivation
- How self-abandonment can begin in childhood and continue running on autopilot decades later
- Why getting to your goal weight won't necessarily solve the deeper pattern underneath your eating
- The powerful difference between "I did this, and I can do something different" and "I did this, therefore something is wrong with me"
- How to talk to yourself the way you would talk to a good friend
- A powerful exercise involving your 90-year-old self—and what she might want you to know about your life today
If you're tired of blaming yourself but also tired of giving your power away, this conversation is for you.
Your weight loss journey doesn't need more shame. It needs responsibility, compassion, and a willingness to understand what's really going on underneath the behavior.
Ready to look at the root of what's making weight loss difficult for you?
Book a free call with me and let's figure it out together.
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