263. Goals Set vs. Goals Achieved: Why You Don't Trust Yourself (and How to Change It)

Have you stopped setting goals because you're afraid you'll disappoint yourself again?

In this episode of Love Yourself Thin, Dara shares why so many women over 50 struggle to follow through on their goals—not because they're lazy or lacking willpower, but because they're unknowingly carrying emotional patterns that lead to burnout, perfectionism, and self-doubt.

Using the story of training for her first half marathon, Dara explains why sustainable success comes from curiosity and self-compassion instead of pressure and punishment. She also vulnerably shares how unresolved grief affected her body for years and how learning to process emotions transformed both her health and her relationship with herself.

If you've ever abandoned a goal, questioned your discipline, or believed you simply can't trust yourself, this episode will help you understand what's really happening beneath the surface.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why burnout isn't caused by doing too much—but by why you're doing it.
• The difference between setting goals from fear versus love.
• How perfectionism and people-pleasing sabotage follow-through.
• Why self-trust is built through compassion, not criticism.
• The connection between unresolved emotions and physical health.
• Dara's surprising half marathon experience and what it taught her about lasting change.
• How to create goals that actually strengthen your confidence instead of destroying it.

You don't need more discipline. You need a healthier relationship with yourself.

If you're ready to stop starting over and finally build lasting confidence, this episode is for you.

Book a call with Dara to find out how she can help you build confidence and achieve your goals.

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