What happens when you achieve the success you dreamed of and still don’t feel okay?
I went to the Hoffman Institute during a painful divorce, and I was terrified of confronting things I had buried for years. It’s something that most of us don’t think about until it’s too late: mental health deserves the same attention we give our physical health. In this emotional and bare-it-all conversation, I share what it took to face some of my own patterns and face the demons of my childhood that have been holding me back my entire life and influencing the way I’ve lived for my entire life..
In Part 1 of In Search of Excellence, I sit down with Hoffman Institute CEO Matt Brannagan to talk about the Hoffman Process: a week-long personal-growth retreat that helps people examine patterns learned in childhood. According to the Hoffman Institute, the Process has helped more than 150,000 people since 1967.
I share what frightened me about attending, what Scooter Braun told me beforehand that prevented me from backing out at the last minute, and why the 10-page questionnaire brought me to tears many times. We discuss a friend who earns $50 million a year but hated going to work, and why achievement doesn’t always bring fulfillment.
Matt explains how Hoffman influenced his leadership during his deployment in Iraq, Bob Hoffman’s “negative love syndrome” framework, and the Quadrinity: emotions, intellect, body, and spirit. We also discuss forgiveness, parenting, and why recognizing a pattern is only the beginning of changing it.
In this conversation
• Why success and money can leave happiness unresolved.
• How childhood patterns can affect your relationships and work.
• Why self-awareness alone may not change your behavior.
• How understanding your parents can open the door to forgiveness.
Chapters
00:00 - Success and the search for happiness
00:54 - From Hoffman to Iraq
03:52 - From Hoffman student to CEO
06:34 - How Bob Hoffman created the Process
09:58 - You achieved your goals but still feel empty
16:03 - What Scooter Braun told me before Hoffman
25:49 - How childhood shapes the way we seek love
31:40 - Your personality or a pattern you can change
36:20 - The Quadrinity explained
44:41 - Making $50 million and hating your job
48:06 - How emotional stress shows up in your body
52:07 - What Hoffman means by your spiritual self
54:14 - The work that starts before you arrive
56:32 - The questionnaire that brought me to tears
1:06:56 - Why self-awareness alone is not enough
1:09:58 - The letter that helped me forgive my parents
About Matt Brannagan
Matt Brannagan is CEO of the Hoffman Institute Foundation and Chair of Hoffman Institute International. A U.S. Army veteran and former Master Resilience Trainer, he joined Hoffman in 2007 and has served as a teacher, coach, Director of Faculty, and Chief Operating Officer. He holds a master’s degree in transpersonal psychology and is a doctoral candidate in clinical psychology.
Hoffman Institute: https://www.hoffmaninstitute.org/
About Randall Kaplan
Randall Kaplan is a serial entrepreneur, venture capitalist, co-founder of Akamai Technologies, early Google investor, and host of In Search of Excellence. Through his Extreme Preparation® methodology, he coaches founders, executives, business owners, and ambitious professionals on achieving their personal and professional goals.
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About Randall Kaplan: Randall Kaplan is a serial entrepreneur, venture capitalist, executive coach, co-founder of Akamai Technologies, founder and CEO of JUMP Investors, and host of In Search of Excellence. Through his Extreme Preparation™ methodology, he helps founders, executives, business owners, and ambitious professionals improve strategy, communication, decision-making, and execution.
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