What if the thing you're craving most isn't another dating app, another relationship book, or another set of rules?

What if it's community?

In this episode of Nope! We're Not Monogamous, Ellecia sits down with Jamie Love, Executive Director of Sex Positive World, to talk about the power of finding spaces where you can show up authentically, explore with curiosity, and realize you're not as alone as you thought.

They dive into what sex positivity actually means beyond the stereotypes, why community is essential for people navigating non-monogamy, kink, and alternative relationships, and how play can become a pathway to deeper intimacy and self-discovery.

Whether you're brand new to this world or you've been practicing non-monogamy for years, this conversation is a reminder that you don't have to have it all figured out before you find your people.

In This Episode, We Discuss:

  • What Sex Positive World is and the work they're doing to make sexuality education more accessible
  • Why community matters so much when exploring non-monogamy and kink
  • The courage it takes to attend your first event alone
  • How shame keeps us disconnected and what happens when we let ourselves be seen
  • Why observation is participation and why you never have to do more than feels right for you
  • Boundaries, consent, and learning what your wants, needs, and desires actually are
  • The role of play in intimacy, pleasure, and connection
  • Pet play, primal play, cuddle spaces, and expanding your definition of what intimacy can look like
  • How sex positivity intersects with advocacy, belonging, and creating cultural change
  • Why finding your people matters now more than ever

Resources Mentioned

  • Sex Positive World: https://www.sexpositiveworld.org
  • Learn more about Sex Positive World's online classes, community events, and educational offerings
  • Polytopia Conference in Portland, Oregon
  • Jessica Fern and Polysecure

Connect with Jamie Love

Jamie Love (she/they) is the Executive Director of Sex Positive World and an educator, facilitator, and community builder passionate about creating spaces where people can explore sexuality, relationships, consent, and connection without shame.

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