Jason Vallotton tackles spiritual leadership vs. control, pride vs. godly confidence, and waiting on God in our Live Q&A Show.
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We're back with our new live Q&A format on the Brave Co podcast, where I take your real questions on marriage, faith, and becoming a stronger man. This week Dave asks how to avoid confusing spiritual leadership with spiritual control, and I dig into a word study on Eve as "helpmate," a term that in Hebrew is the same word used for God helping man, not a synonym for doing the dishes. I walk through why a husband's job is to lay his life down for his wife the way Christ did for the church, and what to actually do when you and your wife don't agree, including the rule my wife and I live by: whoever has the most buy-in, experience, and gifting in an area usually makes the final call, and when we're truly stuck, we go to a mutual mentor we both trust instead of me pulling rank.
Jeremy's question hits close to home for me since I spent years as a firefighter working alongside non-believers and some genuinely rough guys. I explain the difference between positional leadership, where people follow you because they have to, and permissional leadership, a concept from John Maxwell, where people follow you because they want to. I share exactly how I built that with my crew, one lunch and one conversation at a time, and why the principle "people don't care how much you know until they know how much you care" mattered more to me than trying to get anyone "saved."
Wayne asks about waiting on God and stepping out of the boat, and I push back on the idea that waiting means doing nothing, using the farmer who won't plant until God tells him to as the example of what waiting on God is not. I also tell the story of sitting with John Eldredge when a bell rang and his whole team stopped for two full minutes just to listen to God, something I've carried with me since. Finally, JP asks how to tell godly confidence apart from sinful pride, and I break down pride as a mask for insecurity, confidence that's always pointing back to you, versus godly confidence, which points back to God and what He can do through you.
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Chapters:
00:00 - Intro
02:43 - Dave's Question: Spiritual Leadership vs. Spiritual Control
12:03 - Jeremy's Question: Leading Non-Believers Without Preaching At Them
20:09 - Wayne's Question: Waiting on God and Stepping Out of the Boat
26:10 - JP's Question: Godly Confidence vs. Sinful Pride
30:28 - Wrap-Up: How to Submit Your Own Question
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