You've thought the decision through and had good reasons for making it. But now you're living with the results, and you keep wondering whether you chose wrong.
Maybe you ended a relationship and miss the person. Or you declined an opportunity and can't stop thinking about what you gave up.
But if you take the painful consequences as proof of a bad decision, then you end up returning to the same toxic relationship, or restoring the original unresolved problem, or spending another year going back in circles. Or keep flip-flopping until you no longer trust yourself to make a good decision and follow through.
Yet, you can't simply ignore your gut feelings, either. Sometimes they reveal a problem you overlooked.
In this episode, you'll learn how to tell whether your discomfort warrants reconsidering or whether you need to grieve the loss of something that's good for you to give up.
You'll discover a way to weigh your choices without overthinking the decision to death. You'll learn how to recognize what genuinely needs to change. And you'll see how to commit to a worthwhile choice, despite painful but necessary consequences, long enough that it leads to the life you want.
Listen before you unwittingly undo a good decision.
Show Highlights Include:
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The strange way undoing a decision due to anxiety or FOMO increases the chances you undo another wise decision (even if it feels like the smart thing to do) (1:20)
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The biggest mistake you can make after making an important decision (1:55)
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How falling into the "Resulting Bias Trap" sabotages your self-confidence, devours your energy and time, and pushes your loved ones away (4:59)
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Why separating the results of a decision, good or bad, from the process of making that decision is the most fail-proof way to avoid regrets (6:12)
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How your good fortune can betray your future self (and how to prevent your luck from sabotaging your success) (8:40)
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Here's why feeling bad after making a correct decision does not suddenly make the decision wrong (10:46)
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A simple way to reframe the pain of a hard decision so you don't lose yourself to it (17:14)
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The 4-step method to reassess a difficult decision without ruminating over it every other night (22:30)
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Is feeling lonely a good reason to get back with your ex? (25:49)
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