The world needs more kindness. But what happens when our desire to be kind becomes so deeply woven into our sense of who we are that we find ourselves giving more than we have available?
In this episode of Burnout to Brilliance, Jayne Morris MCC is joined by money coach Ray Dodd to explore the shadow side of kindness, and how our conditioning around being good, helpful and accommodating can lead us towards overgiving, resentment and burnout.
Drawing on Ray's work with women and money, the conversation explores how expectations around kindness can influence the way we value ourselves, the boundaries we hold and the choices we make.
Together, Jayne and Ray reflect on why saying no can feel so uncomfortable, particularly when we're accustomed to being the person who steps forward to help, and how we can begin to recognise the difference between freely extending kindness and feeling obliged to give at our own expense.
In this episode, we explore:
- Why kindness can become closely connected with our sense of identity and worth
- How social conditioning can encourage overgiving and self-sacrifice
- The discomfort of disappointing others and challenging expectations
- Why resentment can sometimes offer an important signal that something needs attention
- The role of boundaries, connection and self-understanding in creating more sustainable ways of giving
- How we can remain kind without continually having to prove it
Jayne also reflects on her own experience of overgiving as part of her burnout story, and the importance of remembering that we deserve the same kindness we often to readily extend to others.
A thought-provoking conversation for anyone who values kindness and wants to explore how to practise it in a way that is sustainable.
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Jayne Morris: https://www.jaynemorris.com
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