How we are wrong about domestic abuse, Professor Nicola Graham-Kevan meets TheTinMen

Professor Nicola Graham-Kevan is a leading expert and researcher in the area of coercive control and domestic abuse, with decades of seminal research at the University of Lancashire.However, Nicola's experience of domestic abuse did not start with academia; it began with life experience, having been in a long term abusive relationship for many years. It was these traumatic experiences that started Nicola's journey, which soon became one of exhilarating discovery, personal challenge, and profound healing.In this podcast Nicola talks about how she had to relearn everything she thought she knew about domestic abuse, and her past, and how her controversial work often put her at loggerheads with other esteemed researchers such as professor Michael Johnson, as she swam against the mainstream feminist narrative of abuse...00:00 – Nicola's first hand experiences of abuse00:20 – Unlearning the feminist narrative of domestic abuse05:35 – What is bilateral abuse?08:41 – What's the difference between self defence, and bilateral abuse?09:44 – What is "coercive control"?12:02 – When does a relationship become coercive? 13:38 – "Walking on eggshells" Do you feel nervous presenting your work?16:47 – Why is it so important to take politics out of domestic abuse research? 17:32 – Why do so few want to admit the truth about domestic abuse19:53 – What happens to those who talk about male victims?21:57 – Does denying women's violence harm women too? 24:08 – "If you can't regulate your emotions, you regulate your environment instead"24:40 – Could ACES help us understand what shapes violence?29:33 – Could some instances of domestic violence be treated with couples therapy?32:33 – What do traditional domestic violence interventions look like?36:10 – What does a research backed intervention look like?37:30 – What motivates violence?40:25 – Michael Johnson's typology of violence44:34 – What is 'intimate terrorism'?49:50 – How do we handle the uncomfortable reality of domestic violence?52:59 – What is accountability?54:06 – Exploring they grey area of coercive control58:29 – Is the future bright?59:58 – What services do you recommend for men?01:00:22 – How can we change the culture for male victims of abuse?01:02:06 – Finding Professor Graham Kevan;s workFollow TheTinMen at instagram.com/thetinmenor visit thetinmen.blog