What the Architects of Taboo Can Teach Us About Consent, Intimacy, and Trust with The Kink Consultant Amanda Dames

AMANDA DAMES, aka The Kink Consultant, is a sexologist, Somatica® Certified Sex and Relationship Coach, podcast host, and former NYC Dominatrix specializing in kink, intimacy, and communication. Through coaching, education, media appearances, and her podcast The Kink Consultant, Amanda helps people explore desire without shame while making kink feel approachable, empowering, and rooted in consent, confidence, and connection. Known for her honest, playful, and accessible teaching style, Amanda has built an online audience of more than 300,000 followers across social media and has been featured in Cosmopolitan, HuffPost, Women's Health, POPSUGAR, and Court TV for her expertise in kink and modern relationships. Her work focuses on helping individuals and couples communicate openly about fantasies, power dynamics, and emotional intimacy so they can create relationships that feel more authentic, exciting, and fulfilling both inside and outside the bedroom.

 

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The Kink Consultant: On Shame, Desire, and Honest Communication

Meeting Amanda Dames, The Kink Consultant

Sex Education Ignores Female Pleasure and that needs to change, everyone on the planet has been gaslit by culture, society, education, and religion

Shame and Communication in Intimate Relationships

Sexual Health as Mental Health, we can't ignore sexual health because it's a component of mental health

Communication is the Foundation of Kink

Origins and Evolution of Kinks and Fetishes, where do these come from?

Sex Research Deserves Equal Funding and Attention for BOTH sexes and that has not been done well in the past

Instagram Censorship and Women's Health Content,, the social media platforms are unfairly guiding discussions on sexual health, favoring and allowing men's topics, but not women's. They need to stop treating actual body parts as taboo words, especially women's body parts. We need to quit the old Puritanical influence!

Breaking Judgment to Build Better Relationships

Anatomy Matters! Clitoral Sensitivity and Hood Anatomy Explained, we need real teaching and discussions on real anatomy, not hidden blackballed teaching on women's anatomy

Body Modification, the ramifications, and Personal Autonomy

Risky Decisions and Living to Tell Tales

Where to Find Amanda and Resources

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