Trust (and Other Tools for LGBTQ+ Parenting) with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife Lift+Love Podcast Episode 83

Trust (and Other Tools for LGBTQ+ Parenting) with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife - Lift+Love Podcast episode 83   Episode hosts Allison Dayton and Darice Auston welcome Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a PhD in counseling psychology. She is the author of "That We Might Have Joy: Desire, Divinity, and Intimate Love", and the creator of six online courses that help individuals and couples create happier lives and stronger intimate relationships. She also hosts "Room for Two", a popular sex and intimacy podcast, and is a regular guest on LDS-themed podcasts discussing relationships, faith, and sexuality.   Allison, Darice, and Dr. Finlayson-Fife discuss practical tools for parents supporting LGBTQ+ children while remaining grounded in faith. She frames the challenge as “what does love ask of me?” - encouraging parents to shift from the letter of the law to the spirit of the law as a “measuring stick of love,” and to let go of ego-driven control. Finlayson-Fife emphasizes trust, communicating “I love you, I trust you,” educating oneself, and clarifying what is and isn’t a parent’s job—so children can thrive even on different paths. She addresses conflict in "mixed-affirmation" marriages, urging parents to seek a united front and use differences to expand perspective. For church conflict, she normalizes tension, counsels responding with love and humility, and staying true to conscience and stewardship.   00:00 Podcast Mission Intro 00:23 Meet Dr Jennifer Finlayson Fife 01:03 Parents Need Tools 02:05 Love Over Rules 05:56 Letting Go Of Control 11:41 Paradox And Growth 14:44 Love And Trust Kids 21:50 Know Your Job 25:38 Mixed-Affirmation Marriage 26:06 Dad Lag Dynamics 26:57 Compassion Versus Expectations 29:39 United Parenting Front 33:34 Overprotection And Growth 36:56 Church Conflict With Love 43:46 Integrity Over Conformity 45:44 Closing And Resources

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