This episode is about power, and we're not apologizing for it. Ambitious women are taught to serve everyone else, be the good girl, and never admit they want to be powerful. But your power is already within you, and this episode is about how to stop accidentally giving it away and step into your full power as a woman.
Power isn't the money, the titles, or the degrees. It's not even the relationship or the job. Those things can amplify your power if you let them, but they can also mute it if you're not careful. Your power lives in your energy, and wherever your energy goes, that's where your power flows. So if you're constantly exhausted, resentful, or feeling like you're performing for everyone else, you're leaking power somewhere.
In this episode, Alexis walks through the 5 ways ambitious women give their power away, and the one question to ask yourself this week: where has my energy gone that I didn't consciously send it? That's where your power is — and it's time to go get it back.
What You'll Learn:
- What power actually is
- The 5 ways ambitious women accidentally give their power away
- Why you're giving your power to your circumstances and how to stop
- Locus of control: internal vs external validation
- Why smart girls have nothing to prove
- The one question to ask yourself this week to reclaim your power
EPISODE CHAPTERS
[01:30] - Welcome: Why we're talking about power this month
[03:15] - What power actually is and what it's not
[06:30] - Power leak #1: Following rules you've never questioned
[09:45] - Power leak #2: Proving energy and auditioning for approval
[13:00] - Power leak #3: Giving your power away to mirrors
[16:15] - Power leak #4: Your circumstances don't define your ceiling
[19:30] - Power leak #5: Keeping yourself small to avoid responsibility
[22:45] - Everything you want is on the other side of Cringe Mountain
[25:00] - The one question to ask yourself this week
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ABOUT TOO SMART FOR THIS
You're ambitious. You're overwhelmed. And you're definitely too smart to keep sacrificing your well-being for someone else's definition of success.
Too Smart For This is the show for ambitious material girls just like you who are learning how to channel their chaotic energy into a more intentional and fun life.
Join your host, Alexis Barber (author, Wharton MBA, former Google/YouTube strategist, and certified ambitious material girl), every Monday for the frameworks, authentic conversations, and tangible tools you need to build a life that's both driven and deeply enjoyable. Because self-care is part of the business plan—and you're too smart to settle for anything less.
Subscribe now and follow @alexisbarber and @toocollective for more.
ABOUT YOUR HOST
Hello, love!
I'm an ambitious material girl obsessed with wellness, business, consumer culture, and the creator economy. I write from New York City, where I'm busy enjoying being young, gifted, and Black, oversharing online, and remembering that self-care is part of the business plan.
This show is supported by Other Kind Media — otherkindmedia.com
