139: Be Kourtney, Not Khloé: People-Pleasing, Boundaries & When Relationships Change

What happens when being the “good friend” or the “easygoing one” starts costing you your own peace? In this episode, we unpack people-pleasing, over-accommodating and the pressure to keep everyone happy, using Kourtney and Khloé as a pop-culture lens for the very different ways people respond to family dynamics, friendship changes and conflict. In this episode Phi discusses with Rio Weerasinghe, founder of Gotchu. Rio Weerasinghe is a Sydney based founder and corporate tech professional who builds a consumer brand on the side, most notably Gotchu, a gut health wellness supplement company she co founded with her husband Alistair. Balancing a full time role in tech with running her own venture, Rio brings a practical, no fluff perspective on entrepreneurship, wellness, and building brands people actually trust.   We explore what happens when relationships evolve, when you stop playing the role people are used to, and why setting boundaries can make you feel like the difficult one. Because sometimes the healthiest thing you can do is disappoint someone, let a friendship change, or accept that you’ve simply outgrown a dynamic. This episode is about choosing self-respect without becoming emotionally unavailable, and learning that you can love people deeply without abandoning yourself to keep the relationship intact. Disclaimer: This episode uses pop culture and public figures as a vehicle to explore broader conversations around people-pleasing, boundaries, relationship dynamics and personal growth. It is not intended as a diagnosis or definitive commentary on anyone’s private life. Resources from today's episode Work with PhiRio's Business GotchuGotchu WebsiteGotchu TiktokApply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.Phi's book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.Message Phi on InstagramEmail PhiPlay Retreat Sri Lanka November 2026Join The Monthly Reset (my free online personal growth community)Jasmine from Love Island's Substack