125: The Simple Feminine Ritual That Instantly Reconnects You to Your Energy

In this episode, we dive into a simple feminine ritual that can instantly reconnect you to your energy and help you feel more aligned, radiant, glowy, grounded and present.We explore subtle practices that awaken your natural rhythm, honour your body, and invite softness and flow into your day.Tune in to discover how a few simple intentional shifts can transform the way you feel without doing more necessarily. Resources from today's episode Work with PhiLearn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here.Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here.Phi's book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life.Message Phi on InstagramEmail PhiFlow Luxury Self Care Feminine Energy Retreat May 24-30, 2026 Feminine energy isn't built on depletion but overflow Hello my love, welcome back I’m so glad you’re here.It’s November and this month has flown by like honestly Christmas is next month, 2026 is 2 months away - wild. We’re getting into what is traditionally known as the busiest time of the year but here I am dedicating an episode on the poddy on why rest is more important than ever.I want you to ask yourself a gentle question: When did you learn that rest was wrong?I already know it’s not consciously. You didn’t wake up one day and say, hmm… I think I’ll deny myself rest and build my self worth around exhausted and doing things all the timeYou more than likely absorbed it. Watching the women around you run on empty. Always giving. Always available.  Always doing. You saw that “good women” didn’t stop… They didn’t say no. They didn’t ask for support. They didn’t nap or take long baths or lounge in sunlight.If you’re listening I know more likely than not you want to tap more into your feminine energy and Feminine energy isn’t built on depletion… it’s built on overflow. Signs you have a wounded feminine energy relationship with rest So when you finally try to rest your mind is in complete resistance screaming at youYou’re falling behind.You should be doing something.You haven’t earned this.Everyone needs you.We can rest later, and that later keeps getting pushed out and further as things pop up.Signs you have a wounded relationship with restYou feel anxious when you’re not doing something productiveYou constantly multitaskYou only rest when your body physically forces youYou come up with excuses why you can’t rest right now or even laterYou can’t relax without some sort of stimulation e.g. scrolling, TV, drinking, eatingYou feel guilty spending time alone, unwinding, or doing “nothing”Rest feels foreignYou don’t know what to do when things get quietIf any of these resonate… I want you to put a hand on your heart.Take a breath.There is nothing wrong with you.  It’s because you’ve learnt that rest is dangerous. Maybe rest means you could be forgotten, or in trouble or unloved. You are simply a woman who learned to survive. You're not lazy or lacking discpline when it comes to rest Your nervous system remembers every moment you had to hold the world together alone. So now, when you try to soften, your body panics not because rest is wrong, but because rest was never safe before. That’s not a failure. It’s actually your brilliance. Your survival intelligence. The part of you that says “keep going” is the same part that once kept you safe. She protected you. She carried you. She made sure you survived in environments where softness wasn’t allowed. Now she’s tired. She doesn’t know rest is safe yet and I want you to know: I see her. I see you. You’re not lazy. You’re not lacking discipline. Your nervous system doesn’t know how to feel safe without being go go go all the time. The healing isn’t in forcing rest. It’s in teaching your body that rest is no longer a threat. Not by shaming your resistance, but by honouring it. Listening to it. Softening with it slowly. You don’t need to push yourself to relax.