In this episode of Safe Harbour, Jamie Robins sits down with Swedish mental performance coach Tommy Davidovic, creator of The Flow Mindset, for a powerful conversation about pressure, performance, failure, fatherhood, and the emotional lives of men.
What begins as a conversation about athletes and mindset becomes something much deeper: how men handle fear, why we chase outcomes, what it means to surrender to the process, and why unconditional love for ourselves might be one of the hardest and most important skills we ever learn.
This is an honest, funny, and deeply human conversation for any man who has ever felt pressure to perform, hold it together, or keep moving without stopping to ask, “What do I actually need?”
In This Episode We Talk About
- Why athletes and high performers often struggle under pressure
- The difference between chasing outcomes and trusting the process
- How fear of failure affects performance, relationships, and confidence
- Tommy’s Flow Mindset method
- Why presence is essential for flow
- The role of dopamine, focus, and stress in performance
- Jamie’s “two-day rule” for anxiety and overthinking
- Why surrender is not giving up
- How men avoid discomfort through busyness, alcohol, distraction, or control
- Fatherhood and how becoming a dad changes a man
- Why many men are scared of their own emotions
- The power of unconditional love and self-compassion
- What our younger selves might need from us today
Guest Bio
Tommy Davidovic is a Sweden-based mental performance coach, former athlete, and creator of The Flow Mindset.
He works primarily with athletes, helping them strengthen the mental side of performance so they can handle pressure, reduce overthinking, and perform more consistently. Tommy’s approach combines neuroscience, physiology, psychology, coaching, and philosophy. In the episode, he describes his work as helping people change the way they relate to pressure, outcomes, fear, and performance, rather than simply fixing surface-level problems.
Tommy is also a Certified Co-Active Coach, Professional Certified Coach, Certified Team Performance Coach, and creator of The Flow Mindset Method. His website describes The Flow Mindset as mental training for athletes who want to perform with more consistency under pressure.
Guest Contact Details
Tommy Davidovic
Mental Performance Coach / Creator of The Flow Mindset
Website: tommydavidovic.se
Instagram: @tommy.davidovic
LinkedIn: Tommy Davidovic
For athletes and high performers interested in Tommy’s work, visit his website and explore The Flow Mindset and his mental performance coaching programmes.
Host Details
Jamie Robins
Men’s Coach / Host of Safe Harbour
Jamie works with men in midlife who feel stuck, flat, overwhelmed, or disconnected from who they really are. Through coaching, conversations, and community, he helps men rebuild clarity, confidence, emotional honesty, and direction.
Website: jamiecoach.com
TikTok: @jamie_mens_coach
Podcast: Safe Harbour
This is a conversation about performance, but really, it’s about being human. And for men who have spent years holding it all together, it might be exactly the conversation they need.
