Shame thrives in secrecy—but healing doesn't.
In this deeply honest conversation, Dan sits down with Craig Perra, a former attorney whose secret life of pornography, strip clubs, prostitution, and compulsive sexual behavior nearly destroyed everything he cared about.
After years of trying therapy, recovery groups, and identifying himself as a "sex addict," Craig reached a breaking point. What happened next completely changed how he viewed healing.
Together, Dan and Craig explore why destructive behaviors often serve as coping strategies, how shame can keep us trapped, and why true healing begins with self-leadership instead of self-hatred.
They discuss:
• Why all behavior is need-seeking behavior
• The hidden role shame plays in compulsive sexual behavior
• Why some experts are moving away from the "sex addiction" label
• How Parts Work helps people understand—not fight—themselves
• The difference between suppressing urges and building real integrity
• Practical hope for anyone feeling stuck in cycles of secrecy
Whether you're personally struggling, supporting a spouse, or simply trying to understand how lasting change happens, this episode offers a compassionate and thought-provoking perspective on healing.
And if you'd like futher help creating lasting change, check out how you can work with Dan and his team to reach your goals.
Resources:
Free offer from Craig: Text "Dan sent me" to 877-356-5573 for a free pdf of Craig's 175 page workbook on breaking bad habits and addictions.
You can also find Craig Perra at these other locations:
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