Serena Kerrigan is a creator, author and the "Queen of Confidence" who turned dating 50 men blind on Instagram Live into Let's F***ing Date, a card game, sold-out live events and a community of over a million, and whose first book, Let's F*cking Date: Become the Prize, Enjoy the Ride, and Never Settle Again, is out now.
In this episode, she and Rivki talk about why every person is born confident and how talking to yourself in the mirror like your best friend changes the way you see yourself, the moment her mom pointed out that the men she kept choosing were emotionally unavailable, and the dating habits that quietly signal a lack of self-worth. They also discuss why her mom never let her call her a friend, what 50 blind dates taught her about values over checklists, why the anxiety you feel with the wrong person may be your body knowing before your mind, why "I'm too busy" can be a defense against rejection, and her favorite New York date spots.
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00:00 Intro
05:27 Words create reality
08:34 Therapy & emotionally unavailable men
10:49 Rejection isn't a reflection of worth
12:42 Mother-daughter lessons & tough love
18:25 Signs of low self-worth in dating
20:32 Standards vs. values & 50 blind dates
23:54 Anxiety vs. anxious attachment
24:39 Book writing & a coffee-table cover
27:12 How dating changed for women
33:23 Writing a book for the masses
36:32 Rapid Fire: dating & NYC
