In this episode, Hilmarie sits down with David Homan to explore the true power of relationships and why meaningful connection is often the most overlooked asset in leadership, business, and life. As the founder of a global community of over 2,500 superconnectors, David shares how authentic relationships are built through trust, generosity, and consistent action rather than transactions or networking tactics.
David reflects on several defining moments that shaped his worldview, from a serious childhood illness that left him struggling with social anxiety to navigating the aftermath of the Bernie Madoff scandal while leading a multinational foundation. These experiences taught him the importance of resilience, personal responsibility, and judging people by their actions rather than their promises.
The conversation dives into the principles behind his bestselling book Orchestrating Connection, including why most people approach networking the wrong way, how leaders can build deeper and more intentional relationships, and why asking for help is often harder than offering it. David also shares the vision behind SOAR Connect, a relationship technology platform designed to help people build trust-based networks while protecting privacy and authenticity.
At its core, this episode is about connection with purpose. David’s insights remind us that lasting success is rarely built alone. It comes from showing up for others, creating trust through action, and having the courage to ask for what truly matters.
About The Guest
David Homan is a bestselling author, entrepreneur, speaker, composer, and globally recognized community builder. He is the author of Orchestrating Connection and the founder of SOAR Connect, a relationship technology platform focused on helping people build stronger, trust-based professional and personal networks.
Over the course of his career, David has cultivated a global community of more than 2,500 influential leaders, entrepreneurs, investors, family office executives, philanthropists, entertainers, and changemakers. Known as a “connector of connectors,” he specializes in creating meaningful introductions, fostering collaboration, and helping individuals and organizations unlock opportunities through authentic relationships.
David’s work is driven by a belief that generosity, trust, and intentionality are the foundations of long-term success. Through his writing, speaking, coaching, and technology ventures, he continues to help leaders transform the way they build relationships, create impact, and strengthen communities around the world.
Quotes
5:37 - I started to understand that everyone has something that they have gone through, most of us afraid to share it, that has formed how we act in this world. And the most gracious, kind people I've met have embraced that adversity.
8:09 - I had to take responsibility for something, even if it wasn't my fault that it had occurred in the first place.
8:52 - I learned to not take people at their word. I learned to only judge based on action.
9:17 - I started to help people without an expectation of return. And I did it from a place where there was no abundance.
12:52 - You can build trust that can last a generation if you simply help somebody with something they can't do themselves.
15:32 - Real trust has no boundaries once you've built it. And real trust with vulnerability at its core helps people address what they really need. And then the world moves forward with action and community.
16:26 - There has to be a reason behind what you built where you saw a problem that you needed to have solved.
17:31 - The real point of your pitch start with, the powerful passion you have with why you're building it.
18:11 - The skill is that enough to then spark more interest for somebody who hasn't heard this podcast to listen to it because of how somebody else described it.
18:51 - What we really crave in technology to build trust is to demonstrate the one thing I think is a real value, which is the time that we've spent together.
19:25 - I believe that if you can show those who you built the most trust with the ask that you need, and the system can help augment how they could help connect you. We can build a new way that is entirely data private and permission-based for people to connect.
Useful Links
Website:https://orchestratedconnecting.com/about/
Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/the_connection_orchestrator/
LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidrhoman/
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