Why Being Too Selfless Can Become Self-Sabotage

When does loyalty to others become disloyalty to yourself?

In this episode, Light explores the line between genuine selflessness and self-sabotage. Using the familiar airplane oxygen-mask analogy, he explains why taking care of yourself first isn’t necessarily selfish—it can actually increase your ability to show up for the people and purposes that matter most.

He also breaks down why setting boundaries can feel uncomfortable, especially when the people around you have benefited from the way things used to be. And using the body as a “vehicle” and your internal signals as its dashboard, Light shares why ignoring exhaustion, stress, and other warning signs can eventually interfere with where you’re trying to go.

Ultimately, the question isn’t simply whether you should put yourself or others first. It’s about understanding what you’re here to do and making choices that support your ability to fulfill that purpose—including recognizing when it may be time to say no, change course, or walk away.

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