When Church Doesn't Feel Safe Anymore | Before You Quit #3
What happens when the place that once felt like family no longer feels safe?
In Day 3 of Before You Quit: Hope for the Christian Who Feels Done, Rob Skinner addresses one of the most painful reasons Christians consider walking away: church hurt.
Church can be a place of incredible friendship, growth, healing, and spiritual transformation. But churches are also filled with imperfect people.
Conflict happens.
Gossip spreads.
Leaders disappoint us.
People become controlling.
Hypocrisy gets exposed.
Relationships break down.
And sometimes the people we trusted most are the people who hurt us.
Rob shares honestly about seasons when he felt spiritually empty and frustrated by what he experienced as excessive demands and micromanagement in the church. He also recounts being falsely accused by another Christian of inappropriate behavior after a photo of Rob baptizing someone in a hot tub was twisted into something entirely different.
The accusation was proven false, but the damage had already been done.
For the first time, Rob found himself struggling with feelings of hatred toward another Christian.
Drawing from Galatians 5:19–21, Rob points out something that can easily be overlooked: when Paul describes the "acts of the flesh," he doesn't only mention sexual immorality and impurity. He also names hatred, discord, jealousy, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions, and envy.
These are sins that can happen inside a church community—and they can deeply damage the faith of the people on the receiving end.
If you've been hurt, offended, betrayed, gossiped about, disappointed by leadership, or simply reached the point where church no longer feels like the family you thought it was going to be, this episode is for you.
Rob isn't asking you to pretend the hurt didn't happen.
He's asking you to hang on.
You are not the first Christian to experience church hurt, and you can make it through this season without giving up your relationship with God.
This episode is part of Rob Skinner's Before You Quit series, based on his new book, Before You Quit: Hope for the Christian Who Feels Done.
If someone came to mind while you were listening, send them this episode. It may be exactly what they need to hear today.
Before You Quit is available in paperback and Kindle on Amazon.
Rob's goal is to inspire you to live a no-regrets life, make this life count, and multiply disciples, leaders, and churches.
