A lot of people feel like they know who they're supposed to be, how they're supposed to show up, and what they're supposed to value, and they assume those things come from themselves instead of external influences.
But we all have internalized beliefs and expectations from others, our culture, and the systems we live in. It takes a beat, sometimes a long one, to get clear on who you actually are and what is actually important to you. It requires building the kind of deep self-trust that allows you to act from your values even when the world is suggesting otherwise.
And if you carry relational wounds or other interpersonal or socio-cultural burdens, those experiences can slow down or block your capacity to deepen self-trust, trust in others, grow in courage, and fully inhabit your whole story. That is not a character flaw. It is a developmental reality.
My guest today models what becomes possible when you stop performing the version of yourself the world approved of and start trusting yourself and leading from that space. She is building a career and a creative practice rooted in self-trust and values alignment, and she is far from done.
MILCK, born Connie K. Lim, is a self-proclaimed gentle rebel whose artistry and advocacy is fueled by her music. Her breakout anthem “Quiet” became a global sensation, championing women’s rights and resonating with movements around the globe. MILCK has collaborated with notable artists such as John Legend, Natasha Bedingfield, Phillipa Soo, Ani DiFranco, Aloe Blacc, and LeAnn Rimes, blending soulful melodies with poignant, socially conscious lyrics.
Beyond the recording industry, MILCK is expanding her creative reach into musical theater, advocacy, and mentorship; MILCK and artists Sam Chanse, Jess Mcleod, and AG have partnered with La Jolla Playhouse to develop The Family Album, an award-winning seriocomedy musical. Inspired by MILCK's life journey, the musical explores themes of healing and family.
Listen to the full episode to hear:
- How “Quiet” began as a means to process her own story and turned into an anthem
- How personal, creative, and therapeutic supports came together to help Connie find her truth and her voice and connect with audiences
- The discouragement of her dreams Connie received as a kid and why her younger self is delighted with her now
- How working on The Family Album has been healing for Connie and her family
- Developing the confidence and self-trust to push boundaries and be an emotional bridge
- How the all-female creative team behind The Family Album musical came together
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Chapters:
(00:37) - Introduction
(07:35) - Meet Connie Kim aka MILCK
(13:36) - Quiet - Origins and Cost
(18:22) - Therapy and Support Mirrors
(20:55) - Musical Beginnings
(25:31) - Younger Self and Healing
(29:14) - Turning Life Into A Musical
(32:36) - Fighting to Stay Connected to Family
(37:15) - Pushing Boundaries for Healing and Growing
(41:19) - Conflict and the Wisdom of the Past
(46:12) - Family Album Origin Story
(55:35) - Opening Night Emotions
(57:29) - Defining Leadership
(58:48) - Quick Fire Questions
(01:02:55) - How to Connect
(01:04:34) - Closing Thoughts
