Coercive Control While Separated Under One Roof: How to Survive It | The Divorce Course Podcast (Part 2)
π§ LISTEN IF YOUβ¦
β’ Are separated but still stuck under one roof
β’ Were told you "can't leave" without a parenting plan
β’ Suspect you're being watched through cameras, phone or car
β’ Are scared to move money or make a move
β’ Want to plan a safe exit and set real boundaries
β οΈ General education only β not legal or psychological advice. Discusses coercive control, financial & tech abuse. In danger, call 000. Support: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732), Lifeline 13 11 14.
Part 2 of our six-part coercive control series with clinical psychologist Krasi Kirova and Family Law Specialist Lyn Galvin, all about surviving it while you're still in it.
00:00 β Separated but Stuck Under One Roof: You're Not Alone
01:00 β Six-Part Series, Guest Krasi Kirova & How to Send Questions
02:00 β Meet Krasi Kirova & Lyn Galvin
03:00 β Legal & Family Violence Disclaimer
04:00 β Does Coercive Control Continue After Separation? (Sally's Question)
05:00 β The Three Ds: Disrespect, Disempowerment, Distortion
06:00 β Why They Won't Move Out β The New Under-One-Roof Tactic
07:00 β Is Separation Under One Roof Required? Davis & Davis (Sarah's Question)
08:00 β "Can You Make Them Leave?" + When Your Ex Makes Up the Law
10:00 β DARVO Explained + Why Placating Doesn't Work (Nini's Question)
12:00 β How to Prove Escalating Abuse + Judges Are Trained
13:00 β Chronologies as Evidence + The Three-Year "Separation" Trap (Anonymous)
15:00 β The Stuck Feeling Is Entrapment β You Can Leave Without a Plan
17:00 β Cameras, Doorbells & Surveillance In Your Own Home (Loans' Question)
19:00 β Tech-Facilitated Abuse: 70% Is Everyday Tech + The Omnipresence Effect
20:00 β Is My Car Being Tracked? AirTags, Apps & What to Do (Marie's Question)
22:00 β Removing Tech Safely: Order Matters, Sweepers & Bluetooth
24:00 β When Your Ex Uses the Kids to Spy (She Bear's Question)
26:00 β Talking to Your Child About Privacy + Family Reports
28:00 β Krasi's Call-Out: Share Your Voice for the Psychology Conference
31:00 β Moving Money Without Awakening the Bear (JT's Question)
33:00 β Getting Your Ducks in a Row: The Safest Way to Leave
36:00 β 21 Years In β How Do I Announce I'm Leaving? (Tash's Question)
37:00 β The Shark Analogy: Why "Nicely" Doesn't Change the Reaction
38:00 β "You Moved Money Without My Consent" β Financial Control (Jessie's Question)
40:00 β Boundaries vs Buffers: Why Boundaries Can Backfire (Anonymous)
44:00 β Parenting Apps, Grey Rocking & the Three Anchors
45:00 β Legal Abuse, Comeuppance & the 14% Uplift Case
46:00 β Intervention Orders + A House-Sharing Idea for the Stuck
π§ EPISODES MENTIONED
Can You Make Them Leave? β https://youtu.be/_XAG5c1hOkU
Tech-Facilitated Abuse (WESNET SafetyNet Australia) β https://youtu.be/rc8b27R_k9k
The Three Anchors with Sonia Bestulic β https://youtu.be/aHULu7ffPj4
Capturing Coercive Control in an Affidavit β https://youtu.be/SIyXCGXH5nw
π RESOURCES
1800 RESPECT 1800 737 732 | Lifeline 13 11 14 | Police 000
The Divorce Course β www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Free Before-You-Go Checklist & Tech App Worksheet β www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
Share your voice for Krasi's conference (anonymous) β https://jtwqtij4vdy.typeform.com/to/bjpm4Gy2
Tech safety β https://techsafety.org.au
Davis & Davis [1984] β the case confirming it's unreasonable to expect separated people to live under one roof
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