Spend five minutes on Instagram, and you'll get a message about something else you need to fix. Buy this hair curler, get these sneakers, and starting tomorrow morning, drink the water, get the sleep, and be the best at everything you do all the time. It's exhausting, and honestly, it makes us feel terrible. Who can change that many things at once?
I'm Sarah Walton, a wealth consciousness coach and the host of the Game On Girlfriend® podcast, where we talk about wealth in every area of life: money, health, relationships, and personal growth. Today, I sit down with Lori Montry, a somatic practitioner and the author of You're Not the Problem. In our conversation, she shares how to heal your nervous system by changing the relationship underneath your behavior, instead of trying to fix the behavior itself.
Right now, a lot of women are lying awake at night, worried about money, the economy, or whether they're doing enough. If that sounds familiar, girlfriend, this episode is for you. Lori isn't going to hand you 89,000 things to change. Instead, she shows you where to start, and you might want to bookmark this one and come back to it a few times. So drop your shoulders, unclench your teeth, pop in your earphones, and let's get to it.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
- How Lori went from Harvard Law School to somatic work, and why she calls it her second life
- The question Lori asked about her emotional eating and perfectionism that started it all
- Why so many of us decide as kids that we're the problem, and why that was actually brilliant at the time
- What it means to have your expansive self beside you 100% of the time, even when money doesn't feel safe
- The three things your system needs: safety, capacity, and energy
- Why your nervous system is your compass, not something to control
- Lori's five-times-a-day check-in, and what to do when you have no idea what your body is telling you
- Why Lori's book starts with the basement, not the second-floor balcony
LORI'S GIFT TO YOU
Lori created a free check-in practice called Your Nervous System Is Talking: Learning to Listen. It walks you through how to pause, rate your system, and notice what it's telling you, so you can start providing what you need to thrive. Lori calls it the starting point. Get the link here → https://sarahwalton.com/heal-your-nervous-system/
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ABOUT LORI MONTRY
Lori Montry is a somatic practitioner, author, speaker, and former attorney who helps people understand the hidden nervous system patterns that drive overwhelm, self-doubt, procrastination, emotional eating, and other struggles that can leave them feeling stuck. After graduating from Harvard Law School and building a successful legal career, Lori found herself facing many of the same challenges she now helps others navigate. Her personal journey led her to years of studying nervous system regulation, trauma, behavior change, and self-leadership, work that became the foundation of her book, You're Not the Problem. She lives in Colorado with her husband, Ron, and is a mother of six, a competitive runner, and a passionate advocate for helping people create lives that feel more aligned, meaningful, and fulfilling.
READY TO MAKE MORE WEALTH FEEL SAFE?
This episode might have you noticing the patterns you keep beating yourself up for, or where more money still doesn't feel safe. If so, let's talk. As my gift to Girlfriends, I offer a 30-minute discovery call. We'll look at where you are right now and what might be keeping more wealth from feeling safe.
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FREE GIFT FROM SARAH
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LEARN FROM SARAH
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ABOUT SARAH WALTON
Sarah Walton is a wealth consciousness coach, strategic advisor, podcast host, and mentor who helps women entrepreneurs build businesses they love. Her mission is simple: to put more money in the hands of more women. She's the creator of the Abundance Academy, The Art of Receiving, and the Game On Girlfriend® podcast. Sarah teaches authentic, heart-centered business strategies because when women have more financial power, they don't just keep it — they use it to take care of their families, support their communities, and build something bigger than themselves.
RELATED GAME ON GIRLFRIEND® EPISODES YOU'LL LOVE
- Episode 313: But What About the Money? Why Your Nervous System Determines Your Income — Lori and I talk about why wealth has to feel safe before you can have it. In this solo episode, I explain how your nervous system affects your income and why you can only earn at the speed of safety — https://sarahwalton.com/money-mindset-nervous-system-income
- Episode 88: Understand Why You Eat What You Eat with Audrey Zona — Lori asks what her emotional eating was doing for her. Audrey explains how food affects your body and why you have to deal with the underlying reasons behind the cookie or the bottle of wine — https://sarahwalton.com/audrey/
- Episode 246: How to Let Go of the Bully in Your Brain with Allison Guilbault — Lori describes waking up and calling herself a loser. Allison, a licensed therapist and self-worth coach, explains how negative self-talk develops and shares a 30-day toothbrush challenge to curb it — https://sarahwalton.com/negative-self-talk/
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