Episode #1 - Being A Good Wife Is Setting Your Own Definition
How do you define being a good wife? Based on the standards of society, a good wife can cook, clean, does the laundry and work with the kids. However, it is not always like that in other family set-ups. The dynamic can be varied and at times can be quite the opposite. So in those settings, a question pops whether one is still a good wife? Or does that make you a bad one? Let’s dive into that.
In this podcast, I talked about setting your own definition of being a good wife. In simple ideology, just because society tells us that a wife should cook, clean and do the laundry, doesn’t mean you should. I mean, you could cook if you want to, but should you? That should be an option, a choice. Because without that choice, it will end up becoming a routine that would eat up your time and identity. Thus saying. doing so should be because YOU WANTED TO; that you want to do it in the first place. And it should not be a responsibility that’s put solely on the wife, both the husband and the wife should create an efficient set-up where one could help the other in certain tasks, setting schedules and defining the dynamics of the family. That way, there will always be compromise and understanding.
Inside this episode you will hear:
04:12 What my husband thinks
05:39 Building each other’s strengths
06:11 A better version of you
07:15 I’m not a good wife based on society
08:39 Companion-material
09:08 Being a good wife
Women should not get so wrapped up in molding themselves into the standards the society built, because sooner or later, your identity could be at risk. You have to be true to what you can do, what you prioritize and what you and your partner have decided to work with. You’re not lacking, you’re not a bad wife, you’re you - with everything else that you can offer, and it’s never going to be the same with everybody. So, set your own definition of being a good wife and work with and through it. If a man likes what he sees for what is the authentic you, and not for who or what you should be or do, then sooner or later, he’ll have to put a ring on it. And it’s going to be both of you who’ll work through that marriage.
