The harsh truth about people-pleasing

Newsflash… Being a people pleaser really has nothing to do with you being kind or a nice person. It has everything to do with you wanting to control other people's perceptions of you and how they view you. It's also meant to protect us from being abandoned and left alone. People pleasing became a skill that you learned when you were younger, and you adapted it and it became part of your identity. The problem is that people only know you as a people pleaser. They don't know the true you. The more you say yes when you really want to say no, you lose a part of yourself, and pretty soon you don't know who you are anymore. Grab some popcorn and a drink. This one might sting a little... If you want to dive deeper and either work with me or get trained by me, go here: https://social.dancandell.com/