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How can you become more confident when speaking?
Speaking confidence becomes difficult to sustain when it depends on whether other people agree with you, approve of your ideas, or respond as you hope. Dr. Grace explains confidence as a continuum grounded in trust, particularly the ability to trust yourself. That self-trust develops through congruency between your thoughts, words, and actions. When the condition for confidence becomes internal rather than dependent on audience reactions, confidence becomes more stable and more within your control.
Key Concepts
Confidence as a Continuum: Confidence is not a permanent destination. You may become confident speaking in one setting and encounter a new situation that requires you to develop confidence again.
Self-Trust: Confidence begins with being able to trust yourself rather than relying on other people to respond in a particular way. Audience approval, agreement, and reactions remain outside your control.
Congruency: Self-trust develops when your thoughts, words, and actions are consistent with one another. When what you communicate reflects what you think and what you will do, you have a stronger basis for trusting yourself.
Internal Conditions for Confidence: Confidence becomes more stable when its condition is internal. Instead of requiring a particular response from others, you can examine whether you can think clearly, communicate congruently, and act consistently with what you say.
Where do you most need stronger congruency between what you think, say, and do?
Read the full article: Public speaking anxiety: why it is a thinking problem https://www.masteryinsights.com/mindset/public-speaking-anxiety-thinking-problem-internal-authority/
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