What makes a relationship truly work?
In this vulnerable episode, Milli shares what she has learned about relationships through her own journey, including leaving her first marriage, doing years of personal growth, and preparing to marry her fiancé.
Milli opens up about meeting her ex-husband at 19, how her childhood shaped what she initially looked for in a relationship, and how her understanding of compatibility, identity, communication, and partnership changed as she grew older.
For years, Milli believed that if she worked hard enough on herself and her marriage, she could make the relationship work. But as she healed old wounds and began reclaiming parts of herself she had previously pushed aside, she started seeing certain relationship dynamics more clearly.
Now, in a different relationship, she has a deeper understanding of what she believes two people need to build a healthy and sustainable partnership.
In this episode, Milli explores:
- Why being attracted to someone and getting along isn't necessarily enough for long-term compatibility
- How childhood experiences can influence what we look for in relationships
- The importance of being able to be fully yourself with your partner
- Why shared values, needs, identity, and compatibility matter
- The difference between working on yourself and trying to "fix" yourself
- Why both people need to be willing to do the difficult work of building a relationship
- How emotional capacity and nervous system regulation can affect communication
- Why learning effective communication skills can transform relationships
- The importance of repair and preventing resentment from building
- Intimacy, connection, communication, and understanding each other's needs
- Why you can't make your partner your "DIY fix-it project"
- How personal growth can change the dynamics of a relationship
- What it means to clean up "your side of the street"
- How becoming more self-aware can reveal what is and isn't aligned in your life
- Why nurturing yourself is different from trying to fix yourself
- The relationship between your relationship with yourself and the relationships you have with others
Milli also shares why she feels confident entering her upcoming marriage and what she now understands about partnership that she didn't have the awareness or tools to see in her 20s.
Ultimately, this episode is an invitation to get curious about who you are, what you need, and what kind of relationship you want to create.
Because sometimes the most important question isn't simply, "Should I stay or go?"
It's: "Who do I want to be, and what does that version of me need?"
A question to reflect on
Who are you becoming, and what would that version of you do differently in your relationships?
If you're struggling with your marriage and caught in the loop of wondering whether you should stay or go, DM Milli the word DECIDE on Instagram.
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