E192 | The Power of Slow Healing: Aundi Kolber on Trauma and Transformation

In this Face to Face podcast episode, Melinda and Cathy share updates from the Immanuel Institute, including 21 people in Level I and an upcoming Level II cohort starting November 30, emphasizing experiential training, coaching triads, community, and trauma-informed education. 

They welcome licensed professional counselor and bestselling author Aundi Kolber (Try Softer, Strong Like Water, Take What You Need), who explains how a traumatic childhood and later life transitions led her into therapy and trauma work. Kolber discusses why healing is often slow and gentle rather than a quick fix, critiques performative faith and spiritual bypassing, and describes shame as a belonging-threatening force shaped by attachment patterns. 

 

She addresses relational over-reliance, titration as gradual change, and why body-based approaches matter, outlining nervous system concepts like the window of tolerance, fight/flight, and dissociation, and connecting embodiment to Christian theology through Jesus' incarnation.