You can't just decide to calm down, but you can strengthen the thing that makes calming down possible. The vagal brake isn't a body part, it's the influence of your safety state on your heart, and it's what lets you move between mobility and stillness without dropping into full defense. Here's what it actually is, how to start strengthening it even if "feeling safe" is a foreign concept, and the two skills, pendulation and titration, that come out of a strong one.
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0:00 Intro
1:36 The vagal brake
3:24 How to strengthen your vagal brake
5:05 Return to the present moment
5:34 Pendulation and titration
6:39 The vagal brake in daily life
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