Why You Swing Between Controlling Money and Avoiding It (Fearful Avoidant Attachment)

In this episode, I explore the emotional and psychological patterns behind money behaviors, focusing on the fearful avoidant attachment style. I share personal stories and signs to recognize these patterns, offering insights into how to notice and break free from cycles of financial anxiety and avoidance.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to emotional money patterns
02:10 The ping-pong relationship with money
04:43 Signs of fearful avoidant attachment to money
07:10 Emotional triggers behind spending decisions
09:52 The cycle of control and avoidance
12:37 Why discipline alone doesn't fix money patterns
14:13 Building financial self-trust
16:41 The influence of childhood and upbringing
18:19 Moving towards balance and self-awareness
20:27 Practical steps to notice and pause

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Watch episode one in this series: The 4 Money Attachment Styles (And How To Spot Yours)

Watch episode two in this series: Why Knowing You're Financially Safe Doesn't Make You Feel Safe