What if the biggest problem in your relationships isn’t what you’re saying—but the fact that the other person hears it completely differently? Licensed therapist and author Jason VanRuler joins Ginny to talk about his new book, Discovering Your Communication Type, and the five communication styles—Peacemaker, Advocate, Thinker, Harbor, and Spark—that shape how we connect, handle conflict, and respond under pressure.
Jason explains why great communication is often more about listening than speaking, why vulnerability gives others the opportunity to love us well, and how childhood experiences can shape the way we approach hard conversations. They also unpack the “Three Ds of Doom”—distraction, defensiveness, and dismissal—and why defensiveness often comes from confusing our mistakes with our identity.
Ginny shares a deeply personal story about broken relationships and a difficult apology, leading to one of Jason’s most powerful pieces of advice: when you’ve hurt someone, resist the urge to immediately explain yourself. From marriage and friendship to parenting adult children, this conversation is packed with practical ways to communicate better, repair relationships, and help the people we love feel truly heard.
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