When kids say “I’m stupid”: How to rebuild confidence and self-esteem

As a parent, it’s heartbreaking to hear your child say “I’m stupid.”

Whether it comes after a tough day at school, a frustrating homework session, or a comment that hit the wrong nerve, that feeling can really stick. Dr. Kristin Carothers joins us to unpack where this kind of negative self-talk comes from. What’s happening beneath the surface? And how can adults respond in ways that build confidence — not pressure?

For more on this topic

• Opportunity Gap: Supporting confidence in kids
• How to rebuild self-esteem in the new school year
• What to say when kids are hard on themselves

Timestamps

(02:50) How parents can respond to negative self-talk

(06:08) What not to say to your child

(14:30) Modeling positive affirmations at home

For a transcript and more resources, visit the In It show page on Understood.org. 

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