Dr. Josh King welcomes you to another episode of The Beyond Addiction Show
Today, Dr. King is accompanied by Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer, the authors of The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: A Proven Way to Accept Yourself, Build Inner Strength, and Thrive. They share in this episode on self-compassion: how to incorporate it into our daily lives and what fierce self-compassion is.
Key Takeaways:
[1:47] Kristin and Chris talk about how their lives are now.
[3:58] Does self-compassion really help?
[5:07] Self-compassion is about opening up to whatever it is that you are feeling.
[6:38] Kindness is one important component of compassion and Chris explains why.
[8:14] There are both cultural and psychological barriers to self-compassion.
[10:14] Dr. King asks about the dangers of being kind to ourselves, giving ourselves permission to indulge in order to practice kindness with ourselves.
[12:25] Chris explains the concept of behavioral self-compassion.
[16:43] Kristin shares practical ways to exercise self-compassion for those who struggle the most.
[17:30] How can you pause when you are being too hard on yourself?
[22:25] Kristin shares the power of a soothing touch as a way of practicing compassion.
[25:34] Kristin talks about fierce self-compassion.
[31:33] Chris models how to be self-compassionate even when you are not ready to practice it.
[33:45] Everything starts with giving ourselves permission.
[35:00] Chris explains why sometimes practicing self-compassion can make us feel worse.
[37:48] Practicing self-compassion over time heals wounds.
[39:20] Kristin talks about how as humans we tend to avoid pain, how most of the time, we fail, and why.
[41:34] Chris presents the two paradoxes of self-compassion.
[44:55] The golden practice is simply to be a compassionate mess.
[46:53] Kristin talks about her book Fierce Self Compassion: How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power, and Thrive.
Mentioned in this Episode:
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Tweetables and Quotes:
“Self-compassion doesn’t judge whether you should or shouldn’t be feeling how you do.” — Kristin Neff @_TheCMC (4:09)
“Self-compassion can be trained.” — Kristin Neff @_TheCMC (9:17)
“Ask yourself: Is this behavior really helping me? If it is not, then is not self-compassion.” — Kristin Neff @_TheCMC (14:56)
“You can unconditionally accept yourself without unconditionally accepting human behaviors.” — Kristin Neff @_TheCMC (27:00)
“If it is a struggle, it is not self-compassion.” — Christopher Germer @_TheCMC (30:41)
“When you start being compassionate with yourself, old wounds come up.” — Christopher Germer @_TheCMC (35:04)
