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In this video, I get vulnerable and share what dating and daily relationship life actually look like for a recovering avoidant. I walk through my journey chronologically, from my very first therapy session, to dating again with the avoidant filter, to meeting my partner and pushing through the panic and pulling-away. I explain why insecure attachment is really trauma stored in the nervous system, so mindset alone cannot fix it, and how new relationship experiences reshape it. Today my partner and I both test secure, but some patterns still surface, and it comes down to communication.
► Links and Resources:
Rock Bottom Moment Video: https://youtu.be/NkVmvMkZUI4?si=7Riyf-5mpeqwgWgl
Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma Paper: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspx
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► Episode Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction
01:22 My First Therapy Session
10:27 Dating Again After Deciding to Change
12:58 The Avoidant Filter
15:18 Meeting My Partner
22:07 Panic and a Second Therapy
27:17 Insecure Attachment Is Trauma
30:28 Why Mindset Alone Is Not Enough
32:58 How It Feels Today
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► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)
► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.
I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
