Beth Kelley, LPC, and clinical psychologist Dr. Brett Kennedy are cofounders of The Lonliness Lab. Together with Dr. Rob they explore the many facets of loneliness, including what it means to be connected but isolated, the danger of lacking genuine intimacy, and distiguishing between loneliness, aloneness, and isolation. Each is part of the human experience, but are they all inherently bad? And what is the difference between connection versus community, and why does it matter when navigating the many faces of loneliness?
TAKEAWAYS:
[2:27] Introducing Beth Kelly and Brett Kennedy.
[3:10] People are just people when it comes to lonliness.
[4:35] Defining loneliness as an existential connection gap.
[8:01] What makes us feel lonely versus connected?
[9:08] Uncovering the layers of loneliness, aloneness, and isolation.
[12:30] Introverted but overstimulated? Extroverted but lonely?
[16:04] Is loneliness inherently bad?
[19:02] Experiencing loneliness as an addict.
[21:48] Defining loneliness as a longing and a relationship gap.
[25:18] Loneliness as a physical response.
[28:00] Stop telling me I need more community!
RESOURCES:
Sex and Relationship Healing
@RobWeissMSW
Sex Addiction 101
Seeking Integrity
Free Sexual Addiction Screening Assessment
Partner Sexuality Survey
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QUOTES:
- “All people are feeling lonely, but not everyone is talking about it.”
- “Lonliness is part of the human experience, even when we feel fulfilled in relationships.”
- “Loneliness is ultimately connected to belonging.”
- “Loneliness is a mind-body experience that has a profound impact on the nervous system.”
