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You did the thing. You hit the goal I’d been chasing for months, maybe years. And the text back was a thumbs up and one exclamation point, and something in you sank.
A very specific loneliness can come with growing into your calling, and almost no one names it. You’ve felt it more than once. When you work so hard to become stronger and braver, it can hurt when the people you love don’t always know how to celebrate it.
In this episode, I talk about why loneliness happens, why it’s more normal than you think, and how to widen your circle so you stop carrying your wins alone. By the end, you’ll know how to receive your wins with more ease, less loneliness, and a little more celebration.
What You'll Learn in This Episode:
- Why love and understanding are two different things, and why the closest relationships are the ones that sting when someone can't picture where you're going
- The "orange tree" reframe that will change how you handle one-sided friendships and flat responses for good
- How to tell the difference between people who can't celebrate you and people who won't, and why sorting that out isn't your assignment
- What actually changes when you find a table of women who get it before you finish the sentence
- How to become the woman who celebrates other women out loud, on purpose
Timestamps:
(00:00) — The text that deflated you: when a big win gets a thumbs up
(00:53) — What happens to nearly every woman as she grows
(01:31) — "Not everyone can go where you're going, and no one's asking them to"
(02:56) — Love and understanding are two different things
(04:12) — The loneliness ambitious women aren't talking about
(04:31) — The women who can't celebrate you vs. the ones who won't
(05:31) — You don't owe anyone a smaller version of your joy
(05:31) — The orange tree: asking for apples from a tree that grows oranges
(06:45) — The caution: this isn't permission to leave the people you're bound to
(07:23) — Widening your circle (and the day Alli stopped expecting her husband to get it)
(08:41) — Rachel's story: the coat she didn't know she was wearing indoors
(09:40) — Why Alli built the Catalyst Mastermind
(10:19) — Become the woman who celebrates other women out loud
(11:00) — An invitation to Catalyst
(11:58) — The random thing Alli loves this month
(13:00) — The flat response was never a verdict on your dream
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I hope you loved this episode! 🎉 Don't forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you’re always in the loop. And hey, while you're at it, why not pop over to our YouTube channel and check us out? If you're feeling the love, leave a review and sprinkle some stars because your support truly means the world to me! Take care, and keep shining bright!
xo,
Alli
