Why do so many people desperately want to want sex but can't get their body to go there?

Kayna Cassard breaks down why the gap between wanting to want and actually wanting is a nervous system problem, not a desire problem. This conversation goes into the specific conditions your arousal system needs that nobody ever taught you about.

What you'll learn:

  • Why wanting to want sex keeps you stuck in a shame spiral
  • The difference between responsive desire and low libido
  • How your sexual arousal system is a reward system, not a switch
  • What your body actually needs before desire can show up


Kayna Cassard is a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist who spent over a decade as a pelvic pain patient while specializing in sexual health. She created the Arousal Architecture framework after thousands of client hours revealed that most people aren't broken... they just don't know what their system actually needs.

Find Kayna's book "Arousal Architecture" and all links at: mindlove.com/462

Ready to figure out what your arousal system actually needs with people doing the same work? Join the free Mind Love Collective for just one themed call a month and real support when you need it. mindlove.com/join

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