Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic | Breaking the Four Authenticity Traps
Psychologist, author, and innovator Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic joins Al Adamsen to rethink what “authenticity” really means at work. Drawing on his new book Don’t Be Yourself: Why Authenticity Is Overrated (and What to Do Instead), Tomas unpacks the Four Authenticity Traps, why “bring your whole self to work” can backfire, and how to lead with self-awareness, situational awareness, and integrity. We also explore inclusion, identity, and how to give and receive feedback in ways that build trust rather than erode it.
What You’ll Learn
The Four Authenticity Traps, and why well-meant advice (e.g., “always be honest,” “don’t worry what others think,” “follow your values,” “bring your whole self to work”) can create new problems
Why authenticity is an attribution (how others experience you) and how EQ/strategic self-presentation builds trust and psychological safety
The role of boundaries, self-control, and situational awareness in modern leadership
How to avoid oversharing, process feedback like an adult, and use multi-source input (360s) to see your “reputation mosaic”
Practical ways to “go against your nature” (learned behaviors > fixed traits) to become your future, better self
Episode Chapters (selected)
0:00 — Welcome + why authenticity needs nuance
1:15 — The origin of the book + when “being yourself” goes wrong
3:26 — From Aristotle to Amy Edmondson: how we got here
4:47 — Limits of “whole self at work” and the case for a professional self
6:38 — What research actually measures as “authenticity”
8:57 — Trust, safety, and why others decide if you’re authentic
12:32 — Authenticity as privilege; power, status, and role-flexing
14:40 — Self-complexity and expressing the relevant parts of you
15:26 — Oversharing, boundaries, and learning from regret
19:30 — The Four Traps in detail (honesty, caring what others think, values, whole self)
23:48 — Aim for the better future self, not a fixed past self
28:00 — Growth mindset vs. the painful reality of change
31:16 — Coaching works best on the people who “need it least”
32:51 — “Going against your nature” as a leadership skill
40:59 — Replace authenticity debates with integrity + trustworthy behavior
44:10 — Feedback that helps (and why most of it doesn’t)
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