That long list of struggles isn't one flaw. It's thirteen skills, and every one of them can be developed.
In this episode, DrB separates ADHD symptoms from executive function skills, walks through all thirteen in plain language, and explains why the order they're built in matters. You'll also get a simple prediction exercise to start practicing metacognition today. There's nothing broken here. Some skills just haven't been taught yet.
Key Points Covered
The difference between the three ADHD symptoms and the executive function skills, in DrB's experience, and why attention alone doesn't build the rest.
Why planners and to-do advice fall off: they tell you what to do without teaching the skill.
A plain-language tour of all 13 skills, from metacognition and inhibiting to working memory and maintaining achievements.
Why metacognition comes first: you can see without acting, and every skill gives you choice.
Emotional control as thinking control: we are the meaning makers.
Why the order matters, and a metacognition exercise: predict a movie, then predict your day.
Links Mentioned
drbarbaracohen.com — All episodes + show resources
It Was Never You: Why Capable, Successful Adults Keep Hitting the Same Wall October 20, 2026, 10 am – 2 pm pacific time + VIP hour: https://itwasneveryoumasterclass.com/
The Transformation Club (TTC) – if time or money commitments have been holding you back - the affordable membership program for Executive Function skills development: https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/ttcprogram
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