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Series: Wholehearted Enneagram: A Year Through the Types | Type Three | Episode 2 of 4
Amy interviews Maila Rito about discovering she is an Enneagram Three after years of mistyping as a One and then a Nine, with the realization catalyzed by an August 2024 business crisis in network marketing where public goals, pressure for “more,” and missing a rank triggered shame despite outward composure. A friend encouraged her to read about Type Three, which felt exposing and brought childhood flashbacks, clarifying her drive, moving goalposts, high-functioning anxiety, and emotion-avoidance through constant doing.
Maila describes growth in naming and feeling emotions, setting boundaries to reduce comparison, and processing how Filipina cultural expectations around titles, achievement, and self-effacement shaped her. She shares how a convention stage recognition became a spiritual turning point, leading her to coaching and transforming “Tribe Rising” into a women’s community centered on belonging, healing, purpose, and grace, emphasizing the message that she is loved and enough apart from performance.
00:00 Meet the Enneagram Three
01:33 Mistyped as One and Nine
02:56 The Goal That Broke Me
05:56 Reading Three Felt Exposing
08:52 Chasing More Never Ends
10:53 High Functioning Anxiety
14:17 Learning to Feel Again
16:10 Tribe Rising Origin Story
21:23 Comparison and Boundaries
23:42 Filipino Culture and Success
26:51 Four Wing Push Pull
30:40 Faith Beyond Performance
34:34 You Are Enough Closing
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