Every couple has to learn how to accept their differences. But when you’re in a neurodiverse relationship, those differences aren't just quirks; they’re completely different ways of experiencing the world. 

In this episode, we're getting real about love, autism, and how to actually understand each other in a conversation with psychologist and author Dr. Cindy Ariel, who drops by to chat about her book, Autism and the Two of Us. Cindy brings so many incredible insights to the table, including what autism actually is and why neurodiversity is just a normal variation of the human brain. 

She also gets into the nuances of identity-first vs. person-first language and why those choices matter, and busts some major myths and talks about redefining what "typical" love even looks like. 

Tune in for a genuinely eye-opening conversation on love, connection, and neurodiversity!


Listen and Learn: 

  • Framing neurodiversity as the natural spectrum of variation in human minds 
  • Why the assumption that autistic individuals cannot sustain meaningful partnerships is a misconception 
  • The need to move away from standard expectations of romantic behavior, and why neurotypical and autistic partners often express love in vastly different ways 
  • Actionable insights on how partners can translate each other's emotional signals to build deeper connections 
  • How neurodiverse and neurotypical partners often interpret the same situation in vastly different, yet equally valid ways 
  • Moving past rigid expectations and deadlocks by co-creating custom, "third-way" solutions that meet both partners' unique emotional and practical needs 
  • Overcoming the "closeness communication bias" by learning to treat your partner how they want to be treated rather than relying on default assumptions 
  • Navigateing deep neurological differences by letting go of diagnostic labels and distinguishing between normal incompatibility versus toxic behavior


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About Cindy Ariel: 

Cindy Ariel is a Philadelphia-based psychologist who has spent more than three decades at the intersection of psychology, neurodiversity, and intimate relationships. In 1992, she cofounded Alternative Choices, an independent group psychology practice known for its work with LGBTQ families and with individuals on the autism spectrum. She is the author of several books on neurodivergent relationships, including her newest, Autism and the Two of Us: How Understanding Each Other Can Help You Build a Stronger, Lasting Love (Guilford Press). Dr. Ariel is widely recognized for her work with neurodiverse couples, combining clinical insight with advocacy for understanding, acceptance, and the celebration of all kinds of minds. She was doing this work long before most people had a framework for thinking about autism in adulthood. Learn more at alternativechoices.com.


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