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Julia fires seven questions at Martin in forty seconds. Where are you from? How long have you lived here? Do you like it? By the end he says he feels as if he is at passport control — and Julia tells him that is exactly what he does to other people.
Last time we covered the first ten seconds. This episode is about the second that comes after: you said your sentence, they answered, and your mind went completely blank. So you fire another question. And another. In English there is a phrase for it — to grill somebody — and nobody has ever made a friend by grilling them.
The way out is an idea called free information. Every answer a person gives you contains small gifts you did not ask for. “I've just come back from Lisbon” holds at least three possible conversations. “I'm just finishing a late shift” holds several more. Many learners miss them because, while the other person is talking, they are already preparing their next question.
And you will meet Juan again — now about five weeks into his new life in Wolverhampton — in a campus café, asking a classmate fourteen questions in a row. He counted them afterwards, walking home. What saved him was what she said after question fourteen.
What you will learn:
- The three-step rule that turns an answer into a conversation: answer, add, return — and why the middle step makes connection possible.
- Backchannelling: the small signals English speakers often use while listening — “mm”, “oh really?”, “did you?” — and how they help you sound present without building a full sentence.
- Why even a short silence can feel different across cultures — and why that pause is probably not your English.
- Four possible topic directions for moments when your mind is empty, and how to use them as a safety net rather than a checklist.
- Why “What do you do?” can feel direct in some British settings, and the natural alternative “What keeps you busy?”
Vocabulary in context: to grill someone, an interrogation, free information, to give something away, to backchannel, how are you finding it?, what keeps you busy?, actually.
Sentence of the day: Don't ask another question. Give something back.
Next: The Question That Changes Everything — you know a lot of people, and you don't have a single friend.
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