Often when I speak to men and women about dating and relationships, I consistently hear accounts of singles feeling somewhat dissatisfied within the current state of modern dating...
This also applies to those in relationships who wonder how to maintain that spark of aliveness and arousal when the honeymoon phase has fizzled out...
These are the very subjects I sought to address in this upcoming interview with my dear friend Alex Mischka.
Alex is a relationship and sexuality coach, as well as an embodied men's work facilitator. His specialty and passion lies in helping men and women harness their personal power on an embodied level and lead the realms of intimacy and relationships with a sense of confidence and sexual sovereignty.
I first met Alex over a year ago when we were both going through a facilitator program with our mutual mentor, Amir Khalighi. Since then, I’ve had the great honor of witnessing Alex not only in his professional life but also in his personal life and I've been captivated by Alex’s embodied capacity to lead his social interactions. In the conversation, he spoke about how his work over many years has moved beyond a paradigm of acquisition or trying to get something from someone—and instead the focus has been on how he can light up the world by eliciting a feeling of aliveness in himself and others through the art of connection.
In the first half of our interview, Alex and I dive into the realms of dating, addressing some of the challenges present in our current times and how we can create social connections but also reintroduce seduction back into our lives.
I deeply appreciated the reframe offered in this conversation: focusing on eliciting a feeling of aliveness and creating genuine connections
From there, Alex and I transition into the sometimes murky waters of intimate relationships, addressing the tension we constantly navigate between establishing deeper connection or love with our partners while simultaneously nurturing that attraction
What I regularly discover with clients and people I talk to is that they excel in one of these areas but struggle with the other. Often, this happens because we're not aware of the fact that these are opposing, yet complimentary disciplines. I found that once we recognize these nuances and learn to work with them, the people I speak to can step into their relationships with deeper confidence and leadership.
This episode is packed with value for anyone looking to strengthen their capacity to create human connections or re-ignite the spark with a current partner
Here are some of the themes we explored:
What are some of the current pain points when it comes to modern dating?
Reframing "Seduction" as the "Art of Connection" - and how we can consciously step into the courting process
Why embodiment is important and how it can help us within dating
Working through 2 of the main obstacles: Fear and shame
Why developing discernment with the people we interact with is important
When do we know as men that we are ready to step into a committed partnership?
Finding freedom within commitment
The tension between "intimacy" and "polarity"
What is the "Erotic Blueprint"?
Why focusing on nervous system health within the relationship is key to maintaining a strong connection
How we can embody our "dark masculine" as men from an open heart
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Connect with Alex Mischka
Website: https://alexmischka.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alex_mischka/?hl=en
Seeking to become a more confident in the bedroom? Join Alex's upcoming Group Course "The Dark Lover": https://alexmischka.com/the-dark-lover
Connect with Alex Lehmann:
Website:
https://www.alexlehmann.co/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexlehmann_/?hl=en
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeartofManPodcast/featured
Email: alexlehmanncoaching@gmail.com
Interested in working with me 1:1? Apply here and book a free discovery call with me (one more spot available at present time): https://www.alexlehmann.co/11-coaching
